The subject of love is perhaps an interesting, but yet at the same time a complex topic. People fall in love in mysterious ways, and sometimes against all the odds. Just as there is a myriad of reasons as to why two people fall in love, there are an equal number of reasons as to why people sometimes fall out of love. Love is not passive, but rather it is active – meaning that to sincerely love someone requires some action on the part of both individuals. Furthermore, to fall in love with someone is not just a one-time thing, but rather a person learns to fall in love many times over with that same someone – it can be a lifetime experience.
Someone has wisely stated that “Love is pulling together against all the odds.” There are times when the odds may weigh more for one person than another. And then there may be times when falling in love with someone may seem nothing more than a fantasy as the odds seem almost impossible – a million to one. However, consider this astute observation, “If the odds are a million to one against something occurring, chances are 50-50 it will.” Love takes time, and most of all, it takes two. In time, two people who are in love will come to echo the words of the poet Roy Croft who is frequently given credit for writing a poem titled “Love.” The reading begins with the phrase, “I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” It seems to ring true that “at different stages in our lives, the signs of love may vary: dependence, attraction, contentment, worry, loyalty, grief, but at the heart, the source is always the same. Human beings have the rare capacity to connect with each other, against all the odds.”
This week’s “Video Find of the Week” addresses this subject of love. Two young artists, Kenny Holland and Gabriel Conte, have created a harmonious mashup of Lil Wayne’s “How to Love” and Kat Dahlia’s “I Think I’m in Love.” The result is a brief but heartfelt, passionate song that talks about “How to Love Again.” These words were once spoken by an unknown person and genuinely express what Kenny and Gabriel convey in their song, “I’m not supposed to love you, I’m not expected to care, I’m not meant to live my life wishing you were there. I’m not intended to wonder where you are or what you do…I’m sorry I can’t help myself, I’m in love with you.”